Shat=A0 terd

Washington

Domestic Violence and=20 Murder/Suicide

The Early Show on CBS had a segment on a new = women's=20 shelter created
after a police chief murdered his wife and then took = his own=20 life.
I am not sure of the actual situation in this case, but I do=20 know
many of these happen when one is falsely accused and are about=20 to
lose all they have. I sent this to the Early Show. (there is
a = "contact=20 us" at the bottom of their web=20 site:

http://www.cbsnews.com/sections/earlyshow/main500202.shtml

I=20 just saw your segment on domestic violence. Most all of what I see
in = the=20 media is one sided. There are over 2,000 shelters for women
in the = United=20 States and every state has laws to protect women.
There are only = three=20 shelters that will help men who are abused and
none of them can = accept his=20 children, yet men are abused at an equal
rate as are women. Even = according to=20 the Department of Justice, 39%
are men and that is with many men = being=20 arrested when they are the
victims. This of course would throw off = any=20 demographics so that is
why I believe the real rate is equal.
Many = wanted=20 to get Congress to change the Violence Against Women Act
to a = Domestic=20 Violence Act which would give equal protection to both
men and women = and=20 would hold each equally accountable for their own
actions. Many = groups which=20 state they want equal rights for women
were violently opposed to this = showing=20 they do not want equality,
they want superiority. To look at only one = side of=20 this issue
before passing these types of laws is like asking the KKK = to=20 write
Racial Relationship laws.
I contend that the VAWA is more = about=20 money then about real abuse.
When we reward someone for being abused, = we will=20 find many
more "victims" We are told many myths regarding domestic=20 violence
such as more women go to the emergency room for domestic=20 violence
then for rapes muggings and auto accidents combined. In=20 reality,
more go for dog bites then for domestic violence.
The = real rate=20 of domestic violence is far far less then the numbers
these = "advocates" state=20 it is. Women and children are safest in
intact homes when they are=20 married.
Why not get input from all sides? I also ask that why did = the=20 media
stop asking those that may oppose a viewpoint for their side of = the
issues?

We have written about murder/suicides. I firmly = believe=20 many of
these are due to false accusations for which these men know=20 they
will lose everything they had including their children with out=20 due
process of law

I also believe that a police officer would = know the=20 deck is stacked
against him although I am not saying this was the = situation=20 in this
case.

Unless we look at both sides, more women will be = harmed=20 as well as
more men. Is it not time to Value ALL our people? Is it = not time=20 to
hold each adult responsible and accountable for their own=20 actions
instead of allowing them to say someone made them do=20 it?

A follow up on my message to you regarding Tacoma = Tragedy=20 Brings Hope For Others

You state: Last month their tireless = efforts paid=20 off. Congress passed legislation to increase police funding for domestic = violence programs.

Can you tell me how this is different = then the=20 billion dollars a year we have been spending for the last ten years to = protect=20 half the victims of violence while arresting the other=20 half?

http://www.shatterdmen.com/VAWA%20too.htm

Accusations= of=20 abuse are common in a pending divorce and it is not hard to find a = friend to go=20 along with these accusations. There are NO reports of domestic violence = at all=20 in his court files...NOTHING even though a searched back to 1980 was = done, nor=20 were there any criminal or civil charges , nothing EXCEPT the divorce=20 proceedings and the woman's allegations, but nothing to back them up in = any way,=20 shape or form

There is NO history of violence, or restraining = orders that=20 is documented in any way

03-3-00358-5 Brame, David Allen 02-24-03 = Respondent
Dissolution with Children (DIC)

wife filed divorce = in=20 2003

The bloodshed came a day after the = Seattle=20 Post-Intelligencer reported that documents in the couple's divorce case = revealed=20 a history of domestic violence. Crystal accused her husband of pointing = his gun=20 at her, trying to choke her in November and saying he "could snap my = neck if he=20 wanted to."

It was the fourth time in 2002 that he had tried to = choke=20 her, she said, noting that each time he had sent her flowers to=20 apologize.

David Brame claimed he had been victimized in the=20 relationship. He accused his wife of having a "ferocious temper" and = being=20 emotionally unstable (for which nothing was done, no one looked into her = history)
so the "neighbor" who saw it has been tampered with since = that same=20 neighbor did NOT come forward AT THAT TIME, but the ex sure did say that = about=20 the gun....
Since Mr Brame was a police officer, this would have = meant he=20 would have lost everything due to these false accusations. It has been = enough=20 motive for murder/suicide in the past and it will be again far too often = in the=20 future unless we offer men the SAME protection we offer women for abuse. = It=20 would also mean he knew far too well what the results would be for any = man=20 accused of domestic abuse with or without any evidence to back it = up.

It=20 just may be time to do some REAL investigative reporting instead looking = at only=20 ONE side. You may want to start with the other side of the story and we = will=20 make it easy for you.